Pressure Valve: Eat Pray Love Increments Needed to Escape (BW)

Ask any of my family or true friends — I’m all about the pressure valve! I don’t believe in suffering silently, but first and foremost, I don’t believe in “suffering” as a means to wise happiness. In order for happiness to be lasting, it must come from inside out. Innate and sustainable, as foundation. This makes constant care and tending to our “inside” (the physical and psycho-emotional) all the more important a habit to cultivate into routine — not a selfish or arrogant event. But it can seem impossible to simultaneously take care of business and the never-ending details life throws at us, and opt in for self-care. Integration is the way to more balance and a self-preservation routine that nurtures your own resources to create more in your life — to Be the most whole and integral you.

Every task offers an opportunity (you don’t have to take every one. Choices!) for opting into the self-care of a pressure valve. You can choose to do things the hard way (like taking care of everyone else’s business, and asking if there’s any more you can do, while neglecting your own needs from exhaustion) or you can make sure everyone has the tools to handle their own business properly, and to a harmonious whole (e.g., tribe/family goals and culture) and then — step off! Micromanagement comes from insecurity (most often of the micromanager’s real or projected fears). Be fearless. Teach then trust! Pressure valve your life more often (doesn’t have to be loud or animated like mine, but rather nurturing in your own way). Come to balance for less need to escape but rather to Be.

How do you incrementally escape your life’s pressures? Do you have a go-to pressure valve? — BadWitch

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Just Say “No”: Responsibility of Self-Care (GW)

Here are some tips on learning to say, “no.”

• Practice in the mirror. Use direct eye contact. Practice. See, the world did not crumble. You did not break down in tears. Neither will anyone else. The more you practice, the easier it will be in real life encounters.

• Keep a Yes/No journal. This journal allows you to keep track of when you have said yes or no to other people’s requests and how you felt about it. It allows you to review your own feelings (read exhaustion) on meeting everyone else’s needs. Quite often it takes seeing this pattern in black and white to make changes.

• Check your calendar. If you have issues jumping into ‘no’ immediately, postpone the decision. Others will respect, “I need to check my calendar.” Then check it. Fill in all your responsibilities from work to cleaning the house and making dinner. Be sure to schedule in rest time for yourself. Realize that your being well rested is as important as taking care of others. It will be easier to see the reasons for saying no.

• Pre-prepare your reasons. You’ve looked at your calendar. You’ve practiced. Now put it all together. Write out your reasons, i.e. “my calendar is absolutely booked,” “I have another event/date scheduled for that day” or easier still, “I just can’t do it.” You are setting boundaries, not defaming the other person’s character. Just do it. No guilt.

In the end, you will discover stating your limits becomes easier. You are learning to attend to your happiness/health/schedule first. You are also learning to be honest with those you care about and this alone, will improve your stress levels and relationships—immeasurably.    Namaste — GoodWitch

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Just Say “No”: Responsibility of Self-Care (BW)

I always thought that Nancy Reagan ‘80s anti-drug campaign was idiotically effective. It’s idiotically naive to think that all people in this world can Just Say No, but all the more effective when kids and adults who can Just Do. There’s something very positive about the word “NO” uttered when one is clear-minded, observing his/her boundaries, and has the self-esteem of true self-care, and utilizes the self-care measures available. Then recently, I “accidentally” opened a book right to this amazing and succinct quote (paraphrasing and thanks, Stephen Covey): You are always saying “no” to something. If it isn’t to the apparent, urgent things, it’s probably to the more fundamental, highly important things. Even if the urgent is good, it can keep you from your best, keep you from your unique contribution, if you let it.

What do you most often say yes to that would not fall apart, implode or become extinct if you said “NO”? What would make you more comfortable to say “NO” when you more truthfully felt like saying “NO”? — BadWitch

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