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Trust (BW)

Last week seemed extra long and was definitely hard for me. A beloved parent received shockingly sudden serious news from the doctor. I’m pretty far down the road of senior parent care, so in the midst of all the business and chaos (but even to my own surprise), this time I found that I had earned the luxury of being philosophical. And I thought a lot about “Trust” (my thoughts about its partner “Surrender).

My general formula for Trust is that we all start out with 100% open trust in our psycho-emotional bank, then are debited the percentage of whatever happened to us in life by, say, age 5. If that sum is 50% or higher, we have a corresponding tendency to trust people and situations in life. If it’s 49% or below, we will commensurately see the world as a booby-trapped place fraught with ways to be hurt or worse, disappointed. Leave room for gradations of gray on both sides. Then from a strictly legal definition, a “Trust” means: A relationship created at the direction of an individual, in which one or more persons hold the individual’s property subject to certain duties to use and protect it for the benefit of others. And there you have it. It obviously behooves us to have the most Trust possible. To have Trust in life, is for one’s own benefit, and the benefit of those in her/his life.

This city girl grew up with the benefit of a high Trust quotient. I strive to share that wealth with anyone around me who will listen. I believe the killer of Trust is not hurt, but the kind of disappointment that turns into cynicism. I’m choosing to trust that, after the things that we can and are doing something about, the rest is exactly as it was always meant to be. I trust my Mother Knows Best for herself and that this path is strewn with petals of lessons up and down, which can be trampled angrily on or admired for their fragrance and color. I trust that (especially in being so alike) she will always be my greatest teacher no matter where either of us is on our journeys.

What’s your trust quotient? Even if it’s high, how do you raise it daily? I trust, if you’re a reader of this blog, you likely do.  — BadWitch

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Surrender: How to Do It (inspiration)

“The creative process is a process of surrender, not control.” ~ Julia Cameron

“All of our reasoning ends in surrender to feeling.” ~Blaise Pascal

“Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.” ~Gail Sheehy

“Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.” ~ Anon.

“Love is a lot like dancing — you just surrender to the music.” ~ Anon.

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Surrender: How to Do It (BW)

Typically, “surrender” is one of those elevated life art forms that most (“normal”) people don’t even attempt to approach because they “already know” they don’t know how to. Surrender just feels like a far-off hazy concept and maybe even worse, of the guru on the mountaintop variety — scary or difficult for mere mortals to attain. Still, whether adorably or superstitiously, many of us put it on some future To Do list…just in case. But in our war culture, it’s the ideas about what surrendering mean that trip us up: 1) letting go of control is weak (self-delusional) or a failure (misnomer), 2) fear of the unknown (all of it is that; more delusion), and/or 3) being fatalistic or lacking faith (more ironic when paired with #1 as it often is).

Surrender is very different than giving up.

To give up, we give away our power, and just *sigh! * stop working, being present – check out. To surrender is about being even more present and alive, engaged with detachment, filled with hope and faith that what is and/or will be, is for our best interest, despite what the façade may appear like or to be. I’ve been called an Alpha more than once, and so certainly don’t have a pacifist personality, but more and more try to cultivate a conscientious objective character. My sweet spot: to be as speedy as ever and peacefully accepting and in flow about what I cannot control in life.  God laughs when we make plans! —BadWitch

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Surrender: How to Do It (GW)

Surrender is one of the hardest lessons to truly embrace and practice in one’s life. When one truly surrenders, one lets go of the attachment to the outcome in a situation. Remember a time when you struggled to remember some piece of trivia, like the name of a song, actor or movie, and it just eluded you. The harder you tried, the more blank your mind became. Then you let go. You decide it does not matter to remember, so you give up your attachment (and struggling to achieve it). Then a little while later the answer pops into your head like a gift.

That is surrender in process:

1. Set your goal or desire.

2. Work towards attaining your desire to the best of your abilities.

3. Be grateful for the opportunity to move towards your goal.

4. Release your attachment to the outcome. Work for the fun of working. Find the joy and the humor in the struggle and let go, trusting things to work out for the best. They usually will.  — GoodWitch

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