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Gratitude on Memorial Day

A big thank you and hooah! to all our men and women who served and protected our country. Your bravery, courage and sacrifice carry us all. A nudge to remember our returned soldiers who struggle with PTSD. An avenue of support for those whose lives have changed so ours can stay the same. — Simone

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Joy! (GW)

Joy is finding gratitude for life in every day. Joy is that buoyant feeling that helps you weather stormy times, find energy during the most exhausting stretches and know there is a better tomorrow just around the corner.

Joy is an appreciation of everyday. It’s more stable than the rollercoaster highs of a first date or a special event. Joy is knowing that your life, despite the ups and downs, is exactly what it’s suppose to be, with just the right people to love who love you. If anything is missing, you know you can create it. Joy is knowing unequivocally, “Life is good.” — GoodWitch

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Gratitude: “Thanks a Lot!” Gracious or Ungracious? (BW)

Calling all Negative Nellies! Let’s tawk gracias, danka, merci. This week our entire nation stops everything, supposedly, to give thanks. Yet I’ve recently heard it sarcastically being referred to as The Season of Dysfunction (which, FYI, all families aren’t) — so will your specific brand of gratitude be genuine or adding to the dysfunction at a food table near you? A wise woman once told me that it is the mark of a small person who doesn’t (or can’t) say “Thank you,” and “Sorry.” Given that, this not a trick but certainly a tricky question: Is it easy or difficult for you to say “Thank you!” when and only when you mean it?

If gratitude is generally difficult for you to recognize or feel, I’m guessing it’s hard for you to take a (genuine) compliment or genuinely say thank you, in return. If this is you, stop, then start to grudgingly list whatever you feel, eh!, pretty good about: 1) your fuzzy high maintenance pets; 2) OK not horrible weather; 3) pretty good health; 4) old but running car; 5) boring job that pays the bills. Next, notice how those things make you feel: 1) being needed; 2) feeling less put out; 3) superiority that you’re not as sick as some; 4) lucky because of mobility; 5) good to be able to cover your basic needs. Lastly, give up some warm fuzzies for the next, higher level of that gratitude, you know, the stuff that’s even bigger than you — I am grateful for: 1) (pet) unconditional love in my life; 2) (weather) elevates my mood; 3) (health) being able-bodied is freedom and true wealth; 4) (car) any and all working transportation makes life easier and that’s more enjoyable; 5) (job) safety and some sanity makes me lucky!

Your BadWitch is an eternally optimistic non-Pollyana — I’m a fervent believer in the middle way. You can be grateful and say Thank you!, without being a sappy, vulnerable, or otherwise weak target. You know how great it makes you feel when someone thanks or acknowledges you — babycakes, when you give more, you get more. Gratitude is simply good for your health and wellbeing. Do it for you. No! Thank you.

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Giving Thanks for Life’s Major Disappointments

How do we get over losing something that has represented our life’s pinnacle?Learning lessons and beginning to turn the juice back on.   — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — How do I deal with not getting something I’ve been working towards all my adult life? That’s almost 15 years of working on this goal, focusing on making it happen and now I find my dream is gone (it’s not a job or a relationship). All that time and energy wasted. Any thoughts on getting my “juicy” back as you call it? I’m angry, sad, low energy, all of it. — Unplugged

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Dear Unplugged,

Disappointment is an unleashed bitch. Managing our expectations is a typical (avoidance) response and has its place, but it’s disappointment’s lesson task mistress aspect that we should run towards, embrace and be grateful for. In other words: Opportunity! Drill down truthfully to see what you are actually feeling embittered about — it’s not usually The Thing — is it the “time wasted,” or the “recognition not given,” or “unrewarded hard work.” Look for the lessons. What of this situation has you most hopped up and hot under the collar? You also describe suffering from the low energy of depression. What part of this makes you feel that way automatically when you merely hear the word? Your core lesson about this major life disappointment lies within it, if it doesn’t outright go by that label.

Embrace what your true disappointment really says about who you are today. Learn so you don’t have to repeat the same old theme lessons, different day, Groundhog Day, but rather build the strength of learning to move on!, self-promote…to the next new disappointment or “problem.” That’s how life actually lived actually works, Unplugged.

Thankfully we’re all students,

BadWitch

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Dear Unplugged,

Coping with disappointment is one of the hardest and most consistent issues humans must learn to deal with in this 3-D existence.

I am sorry that you have found your dream is gone, but that is just the very specific outcome of the dream you wanted. Sometimes the Universe has bigger things in store for you. For example, perhaps a woman has always dreamed of being a famous actress. She sees herself winning awards and receiving huge acclaim for her acting abilities. This is her dream. She works hard for this dream, taking acting lessons, moving to a city that has more opportunities and going to countless auditions thinking each one could be her lucky break. But her lucky break never comes. She feels her dream is lost.

In order to make a living for herself she begins teaching her own acting classes. Her style is unique and she develops a large following. She trains countless actors who go on to define a generation. She has trained the celebrated, the acclaimed and the award-winners.

Did she really lose her dream or was the Universe’s dream bigger?

In your case, you have put time and effort into your dream. What have you learned in the process? Who have you met, befriended  and loved during your journey?

We cannot know where our destiny lies. We can only know the road we have traveled and the gifts we have been given along the way. It is true that you requested the gift I the polka dot box with the pink ribbon. Will you refuse to see the other gifts you are given? Somewhere beneath the regret and disappointment is the truth of lessons learned and experiences gained. Somewhere, when you focus on the gratitude, you will find a diamond. Perhaps it is wrapped in blue paper with a polka dot ribbon.

In other words, even as you mourn the loss of your dream, as you wanted it, realize another gift lies just beyond the recrimination and it has been waiting for you all the time. Be grateful for all the little gifts you have found along the way and you’ll start to see the outline of a new dream coming into focus. It may not swell your heart with the passion you felt before, bt it has the capacity to give you great joy—if you let it.

Breathe. Count your blessings. They are more abundant than you are allowing yourself to see.

Gratitude is the attitude of abundance,

GoodWitch

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Happy Memorial Day

And much gratitude to all those who lost their lives in service of our country.

While enjoying today’s BBQs and other festivities, take a moment to meditate on the service and sacrifices in your own life. Savor what you stand for.

See you back here on Thursday.

Be well,

BadWitch

New Year’s Evolution

What a decade. Usually secure and grounded people we know felt everything from shocked from the first market bust, to eh!, to sad to depressed and back again. A fresh, shiny new year is nearly upon us. Appreciating your opportunities, yourself,

to make lasting change.    — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — I’d like 2010 to be better than this year. Do you have any suggestions? I’ve been feeling a bit sad these last few weeks (my work is going well though).   — Blue’s Not my Color

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Dear Blue’s Not My Color,

I’m with you! 2010 should be better! Well, I wish I could promise you lollipops and rainbows, but “life is gonna do what it do.” It’s up to us to decide the past is done and no longer has power over you. It’s done. Now, plot your course for the future, make the navigation corrections and full speed ahead. Depression starts by drafting around past history, judgments and ideas. What has happened is done. The only hold it still has over you is the power you give it to define your present and future. Decide to make a fresh start. Accept what has been. Recognize the past is over and decide to live a new life. Now.

2009 was a seriously trying year. Stress was the name of the game. We are at the start of a major evolutionary shift in our culture—and it’s definitely been a bumpy ride. But now that we know uncertainty is the name of the game, it’s up to us to decide the surf the waves as best we can.

The time has come to decide how you will live your life going forward. Will you be happy? Decide to make it so. Not in some throw away New Year’s resolution kind of way, but in a deep, meaningful, “I’m changing my life” way. Decide. Start by adding serotonin-producing foods to your diet. It will help lift some of the blues.

Then start a meditation practice. Make a habit of taking some time every day to picture yourself living the life you want to live. What are you imagining? Making more friends? Feeling secure and happy? Learning new skills (cooking, yoga, whatever)? The more you allow yourself the space to imagine your ideal life, the more information you have about what is missing now. My suggestion? Add it. Take the class. Call some friends for a night out.  Choose to do what you will do, cause life is gonna do what it do.

The mantra for 2010: “I choose, so all I have to do is decide. I decide to be happy.”

Good Luck,

GoodWitch

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Dear Non-Smurf,

I doubt there’s anyone who doesn’t want 2010 to be a fresh start. When better to look forward than an entirely new and clean decade? The shift into the third millennium was a bumpy ride all right, Bette Davis — and 2009 just seems to have been an appropriate capper for it all. From the tech bubble burst, 9-11, the global financial crisis, housing bubble, to global warming events/signs escalation…whoa!, that’s a whole lotta prompts for us all as individuals to make meaningful changes for more evolved living.

I’ve been on a lifelong quest of self-improvement, inspiration and spiritual expansion.  To my mind, work and personal lives are intertwined more these days than ever before. These suggestions might help you improve both:

• get to know yourself a little better every day. Journaling, participating in common interests groups for feedback and exchange, get some coaching, these types of activities help you get a more objective look at yourself and, anywhere from immediately to over decades, can help you make better, more personal value-based decisions, then…

• don’t make resolutions you won’t likely keep. In this area, pick just one habit or quality you’d like to improve about yourself and make a yearlong plan/goal, then scale it back to monthly To Do items/activities to support it. Make the daily changes small but do-able– especially at first, then challenge yourself as you go – you will actually change your habit(s) in three (3) weeks. Repeat, rehash, again, one more time! This will also help you…

be kinder and gentler with yourself NOW!!! (haha), the kinder you act, the kinder you will become. This is an extremely under-recognized affliction and, I believe, partially explains how carelessly we treat each other and mindlessly we occupy each day….which could be how we got to this place…

That’s “it.” Know, improve and be kinder to yourself. Empathy for others through self-love.  We are all connected, so when we value and treat ourselves and each other with more care, we can become the change we can believe in.

Gratitude, hope and consciousness,

BadWitch

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Giving Thanks, No Regrets

My mouth just watered. It must be that time of year again. Most of us will be with the family and friends who helped make us, literally and figuratively. But if there are people in your life that won’t be at that table tomorrow, please think about reaching out to them (whether by technology, or the art of the heart energetically) and letting them know how you feel about their contribution to your life, or…just say, “Hey.” Don’t elevate the mundane and minutia of the business of every day living to allow you take them for granted. You never know when you might lose them — the bounty that flows from gratitude doesn’t require a special day. No plane, train or automobile needed to share the love –  a call or a prayerful meditation can speak volumes. Happy Thanksgiving and see you back here on Monday, bewitched readers.

Pass the tryptophan please and thank you!

BadWitch

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Dear Readers,

I know that some of you are having a hard time finding thanks this year. We have suffered. We have worried. We have seen debt rise, income drop and unemployment soar. The tough times are not yet over. But for today, let’s decide we have hit bottom. We can now reposition ourselves, redirect and push off with a force that catapults us from the depths.

I give thanks for hitting bottom. I give thanks for the lessons and incredible gifts of compassion and mercy I found there. I give thanks for family, friends and extended community whose very presence on this planet, gives me strength. I give thanks for health and the spirit of laughter. I give thanks for the joy of service. And most of all, I give thanks for amazing readers who share their stories so that we all may learn and grow. Thank you for your questions, your comments and your readership.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving,

GoodWitch

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Mondays money, work, purpose dilemmas. Thursdays family, relationships, love dramedy. Send your FREE brewing questions on how to thrive—not just survive— modern life to: coaching@stillsitting.net.

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