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Word! Deleting Slut & Ho from Our Vocabulary (BW)

Words hurt — but only if you let them. I’m a staunch believer of the playground wisdom, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me” to this day. Yet it is undeniable that words are powerful. One of my favorite pieces I wrote ‘Don’t Be A Pussy’ was about the harmful effects of the ubiquity of misogynistic, negative slang phrases. My rant is easily extendable to abating words like Slut, Whore and ‘Ho from our vocab because, while used obviously derogatorily, they are more dangerously ubiquitous. When we are so familiar with a thing that we no longer see it, hear it, or are aware of its true meaning anymore, is when it has an insidious power to do its deepest damage to our individual psyches, our collective culture — because this negative slam-slang is just accepted as a fact or a truism. But I am a Big Picture seer: when female power and the word “vagina” are cute-isized and made non-threatening as hoochie, vajayjay, and other dumbed down terms, it’s hard to avoid recognizing a pattern of misogyny and the fear of female power still runs deeply in our society, culture, and most of the world at large even in the 21st century. Hillary Clinton at this year’s TED Women’s Conference on The Empowerment of Women & Girls: “We need to reach out to faith leaders and community leaders to change the perception and treatment of girls, and to persuade men and boys to value their sisters and their daughters, their talents and their intrinsic worth.”Words are powerful. As I say at my zen pop culture blog, “Use your power for good” by: 1) Knowing who you are; 2) don’t give fear of other’s opinions (just words) of you the power to paralyze or stunt you; and 3) shed a light on or speak out against ignorance whenever you hear it as a “that’s how everyone talks”-ism. No it isn’t.

How do you feel about words like “bitch” and “’ho” used interchangeably for “women” or “girls”? Do you talk about this with your daughters?  — BadWitch

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True Love…? And Other Urban Myths

Our culture loves love. But when love goes wrong, everyone loves to mock (see TMZ), what’s up with that conflict? Is true love the Big Foot of our hearts-land?      — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — Does true love even exist? What’s this obsession with Jennifer Aniston’s love life and whether she’s pregnant “yet”? I got kinda depressed when I just read George Lopez is divorcing his wife after 17 years even after she saved his life 5 years ago by giving him a kidney. I know Hollywood people aren’t “real people” but we all see their love lives and I can’t help thinking this is a bad trend for true love. Jaded Too Young?

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Dear Jaded,

I’m unsure whether “true” love exists, but I positively, definitely love this question! While I have been the lucky recipient of much unconditional love, have had equal luck with relationships of the heart (lasting!) as Solitaire on my iPad (3 minutes average game time!), and know/experienced/given/received a general warm-fuzzy, heart-strengthening love for other humans, animals and the passion of creating, my Inner Judge and Jury are still out deliberating on “romantic love” — which I feel is closest to the question of “true love.” Oh, trust me when I say that I have thoroughly thought about this subject in the absolute most pseudo-intellectual yet achingly earnest ways, and concluded most unscientifically that romantic love historically started out as a political and business transaction, and in our culture’s more recent times morphed into a marketing salve to soothe our empirically solo existences, as much as to sell edible underwear and Valentine’s Day crap. But it certainly is intoxicating.

So don’t look for true love modeling in celebrity pop culture (but, psssst!!, what do you think about the Demi and Ashton affair thing? Ohnohedi’ent!) as any sort of North Star for or barometer of true love — spend more time finding your own ways you can (re-)learn to trust, be open, be in the moment by learning from and leaving behind past hurts, share of yourself with others, and the real sort of love I hear you pining for, will know to begin to find its way to you. …And then you’ll have to learn how to open the door and let it in. …And then, even more work ensues with this business of “true love”…

Speaking of intoxication, while dipping my systems in my latest dopamine and oxytocin cocktail, I’d completely forgotten we’d answered this question of true love in another form last year. And I still agree with myself.

Love ya, mean it!

BadWitch

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Dear Jaded,

Ah, True Love, Soul Mate, Twin Flame—the elusive perfect mate with whom you are perfectly suited and a relationship that requires no work because you are “meant to be.” Yes, Jaded Too Young, part of that is true urban myth.

Relationships require work. Being in relationship with another being means getting to face another human that amplifies and mirrors a host of your own insecurities and issues. It is an opportunity to face those places where you are too scared or can’t trust. It is an opportunity to accept more of who you are and more of who someone else is surrendering judgment and control. It is a lively dance of energy that requires being honest with yourself and the other person—regularly.

Does love exist? Absolutely—but not in some ‘happily ever after’ way. Keeping the flame alive means keeping it interesting, as well as keeping up an interest in the other person’s life and activities. Sadly after a few years and a few kids it is easy to grow apart because interests and activities are no longer aligned, which can happen after a few years of marriage. A relationship in which the only communication is about ToDo Lists and laying out responsibility for tasks is not love or a marriage. If the heart of the caring and communication is gone, not much is left. And in the case of the Lopez marriage, why stay if the heart is no longer there? Just because she saved his life does not mean he is suppose to mortgage that life to exist in a loveless marriage. Both parties have to actively want to be in it for true love to exist.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe in love. I believe in marriages that can last happily for 50-60 years. I’ve seen it. But that takes work by both parties. Sometimes it means admitting where you are wrong. Sometimes it means forgiving. And often it means accepting what is. The downfall in a relationship is trying to change someone else to match your needs. They are who they are and will most likely be some version of that person for the rest of their lives. If that’s a deal breaker now, move on. It’s not love it’s a project.

True love fights, manages every day issues like who’s doing the dishes and struggles to make romance out of another night at home watching TV. It is not all candlelight and private orchestra serenades. It’s work. Work on your part to really show up as all of you: honest, open, loving, compassionate and, yes, vulnerable, as well as powerful and independent. True love is sharing this “life” existence of bills, noise, distraction and responsibilities with another person who gets you. It will probably not resemble the fairytale, but there will be some absolutely magical moments. AND it may not last forever but if you can keep coming back to the foundational friendship, you may be able to find longevity. Enjoy each day as it comes and commune with the someone you love as honestly and compassionately as you can. Love is in the connection, not the drama.

Don’t Stop Believin’,

GoodWitch

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Swine Flu, What the H1N1 To Do?

swine-flu-virus.jpsIt’s on everyone’s minds, whether it’s a Back2School issue in your house or not. Swine Flu properly known as the H1N1 virus has been reported widely to be on the increase. There’s enough conflicting information on the subject to make someone sick. What’s up with that?  — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — What the hell is going on with Swine Flu H1N1 and all the confusion around it? Why are they telling us there will be an epidemic but not enough vaccine around till October? We’re a non-pregnant healthy couple living together in the suburbs. What should we do? — Oinkin’ Worried

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Dear Oinkin’ Worried,

Oh, I get it. I’ve got two school age children, who are healthy, but still in the cross hairs of this Swine Flu, H1N1 disease— along with pregnant women. It is highly worrisome.

So, how do you prepare? Keep your immune system strong and healthy. Not to shamelessly self-promote, but now is a good time to start stress management training. Chronic stress shuts down the immune system. Now, you think, “I don’t have chronic stress. I mean sure I’m stressed, but isn’t everyone. That’s life.” Well, the grumpiness, the irritation, the never enough time and the worry all balled together equal chronic stress.

Sounds horrible, really just a state we have all decided is perfectly normal. Of course, that “perfectly normal” state shuts down immune system, digestion and a number of other “non-critical” body functions. During this flu season, stress is not perfectly normal. It is a perfect recipe for a ‘Welcome Illness’ sign across your forehead.

The next step is to wash your hands early and often. I suggest using Dr. Bronner’s Lavender Soap. It’s made with real lavender extract, which has natural antiseptic properties. That’s natural, not like the antiseptic cleaner that creates super viruses. The liquid soap is excellent and, since it’s concentrate, a little dab will do you. Perfect. Keep some at work, in the kitchen and in the bathroom. Side benefit, you’ll smell great—and not in some fragrance sensitive kind of way.

Remember, if you have contact with a sniffing coworker or kid, wash your hands before touching your face—especially mouth, nose and eyes. And, wet wipes are great cleaners for shared equipment clean up. And, if you’ve touched the office copier, wash your hands. It may seem a bit OCD, but when you’re still standing in the Spring, you’ll be thankful.

Keep your vitamins up, especially B complex and C. Good nutrition cannot be undervalued in the work to reinforce the immune system. The idea, in short, is to treat your body with care in the coming months, so you become less of a happy host for the H1N1 virus. Get enough sleep and be good to yourself. If we take the time to take care of ourselves, we build up our tolerance and our immune system. Then spend your sick days on some recharging mental health days, like God intended.

Be healthy,

GoodWitch

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Dear Oinkin’,

There are as many considerations as worries surrounding the H1N1 virus. Let’s break down the basics so you and your partner can decide for yourselves.

1) How safe is the vaccine? Should parents vaccinate kids?

The NIH and WHO have been vaccine testing for the US vaccine roll-out mid-October as scheduled. The CDC says that children six (6) months to four (4) years old should be vaccinated. Parents will have to decide for themselves as with the rest of their children’s vaccinations. Here’s recent info from CBSNews item on vaccination risk.

2) How at risk are you?

Travelers should be concerned but only postpone travel if they already have H1N1. Otherwise, WHO is not recommending countries institute special Entrance/Exit checks as this only serves to hold up, not stave off disease among travelers. With worldwide travel so common, WHO feels restricting travel would be more disruptive to the worldwide community than help manage the disease. Some health panels believe students are the most at risk group. Other at risk groups include pregnant women, the elderly, healthcare and professionals dealing with the public, and those people with chronic health problems.

3)    What precautions can you take against H1N1?

Guidelines for coping with this flu for businesses, schools and colleges were already announced.

Above all, Oinkin’, remember the majority of people who have had Swine Flu, H1N1 recovered from their surprisingly mild cases quickly (three days average reported). Guard yourself from over-worrying which can make you sick in itself! Stay conscious but not paranoid about your surroundings and those you come in contact with, wash your hands frequently and use hand sanitizer, my personal favorite is EO’s Hand Sanitizing Spray in Organic Peppermint. If you do get sick, the CDC says stay home.

Wellness first,

BW

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Facebook Quiz Debunks Feminine Mystique!

wifeyNot the same “Mystique” Betty Freidan wrote about in her cultural tome on women’s unfulfillment, but the ethereal aura surrounding being a woman. Flattened!, dissected by another privacy-invading tool at FaceBook. Women are multidimensional goddesses and…human!  — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — So ok, this one’s for the ladies but, I just took one of those crazy quizzes at FaceBook that are so popular…Can’t we be a balance of both good girl plain jane and hot vixen? Just a question!!!!! I will not the the outcome define me…..lol. Thanks chicas…girl power!   — Hot & Smart Mama

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Dear Hot & Smart Mama,

It’s a time-honored tradition to stereotype women as if that helps people get a handle on them. As if to prove it, there are as many versions of “female archetypes” lists as there are types cited out there. Here’s the one that didn’t completely turn me off, and encompassed real life, careers, myth and pop culture in a way that appealed to a less-harsh-than-Miranda/less-exhibitionist-than-Samantha gal like me. See?, I don’t think any of us can be categorized as one pure type, period – no pun intended.

One of my favorite TV shows of all time is “Mad Men” and there is a female character that, now in its third season, is starting to explore the issues you bring up today way back in the ‘60s! Oh yes she is.

Peggy, Peggy, Peggy is my heroine — back a mere season ago, I couldn’t even imagine those words of this Plain Jane, much less flying out of my fingertips. This non-typing pool girl-woman is not the squealy, frivolous sex kitten the “men want and the women want to be.” Going tom-catting the exact same way the boys at her ad agency Sterling Cooper doesn’t fit her in totality, either. Peggy understands she is uniquely She (thank you, Ursula Andress, She who must be obeyed! She who must be loved! She who must be possessed!, a real role model) . Unique eyes (a riff on Mad Men dialogue) and all. I can’t wait to see how Ms. Peggy hits it this season! And I mean her stride among other things. I have been watching media and TV since since in utero. Never in all my decades have I ever felt represented by a female character so completely as the complex and nuanced Peggy (Ms. Olson if ya nasty). And it’s only episode 2! Could it be that somebody finally, gulp!, understands?

So yes, you certainly can take it outside in the big Real World and be both Crystal and Alexis at once, without needing Sybil meds. If it took TV this long to get it right, so full of gradation, so reality TV the way reality TV will never be…then give some of those semi-illiterate, one-note folks who write the most superficial of those FaceBook quizzes (there are some dead-on ones, too) a wait and see for just another couple months (approximately a TV season in FB time).

The moon has many phases,

BW

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Dear Hot & Smart Mama,

OK, I’d just like to be on record saying good girls are not necessarily Plain Janes and, yes, hot mama, naughty and nice often come together in the same fabulous package.

I have loved my Facebook quizzes. Don’t we all need to know which “Facts of Life” character we might be? Heck, Facebook finally put to rest my long-held suspicion that I was meant for Johnny Depp and, well, visa versa. But recently, there’s been some growing concern over how much of your privacy info Facebook is giving away when we allow the quizzes to access our information.

I received this in email from ACLU:

“Thousands of people have taken the quiz and seen firsthand how Facebook allows quiz creators to have access to their personal information – including religious and political views, sexual orientation, pictures, groups, and posts. When you take a Facebook quiz, you can’t tell whether your personal information has been collected. In fact, most of your personal information can be exposed even if it’s your friend, and not you, who takes one of these quizzes!”

ACLU has created the What Do Quizzes Really Know About You Facebook quiz (log-in required). The quiz allows you to see what developers can see on your profile, your friends’ profiles, etc. It’s disturbing. But, as ACLU noted, we know Facebook responds to protest. At the end of the quiz you can sign an online petition and are taken to privacy page to change setting.

So, I know that was off the beaten path of your question, but it seemed relevant, so I gave it to you. But, we all know, it just takes the right mate at the right time in the right environment to “Make a Good Girl Go Bad.” And, guys, you are a really happy and lucky if you’re there when it happens.

Keep it hot!

GoodWitch
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Office Smoke Signals — “Can We All Just Get Along?”

ritahayworthSometimes technology isn’t the fastest way to send a message to our co-workers. Sometimes our straight up, plain bad behavior(s) does the trick quite nicely. Now that you’ve quit the bad-for-you, stinky cigarette habit, how can you insist former smokemates stop tempting you to fall off the bandwagon to rejoin their ranks? Is their bad behavior smoke screen for something more smoldering?         – BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GW/BW – There is a bullying co-worker who drives me to smoke! I just quit! She tried, she can’t. It’s like she’s baiting me with her overbearing, obnoxious office behavior that she knows stresses me out to make me want to smoke! Help!   – Smoking Mad, Washington, D.C.

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Dear Smoking Mad,

Misery loves company. People with their addictions can do some crazy things. Sometimes even when they want to… Sounds to me like your officemate has more than just an addiction to cigarettes. Let’s call a spade a miserable…um, witch, and deal with the real problem. And there are potentially so many here, where to start? Let’s pick one.

I suspect she’s not just lonely and wanting her BSB (Bestie Smoking Bud) back to be her co-conspirator in her guilt-inducing habit, but rather a fellow miserable soul (maybe to make herself feel better about her failed quitting attempts; her “superiority” to you?). Does she try to coerce or manipulate you and others around issues other than smoking, too? If so, then she may be stressed out in her life (not just workplace) and automatically reacting (read more about Automatic Stress Reaction (ASR) Types) to it the only way she knows how – by manipulating others to serve her own agenda. It seems like she just doesn’t want to lose the comfort of being Queen Bee of her fiefdom, and thereby “losing control” of your indebtedness (or friendship) to her. On the other (and more obvious) hand, the ciggies no doubt add to the calming effect she seeks.

Help her help you by letting her know in no uncertain terms that you have Q-U-I-T. You don’t want to go back, it took a lot of work and willpower, and she needs to respect that you have learned new ways to deal with your stress. Share your simplest quitting tip(s) with her – one that’s portable is ideal, i.e., the patch, exercise (if you started windmilling your arms when she starts in, that could turn her insidious behavior off because it’s crazy enough to pop her out of her shiny bubble and both of you into the present), rubber band snap — whatever you do, share it with Ms. Manipulate, and you might help her clear the smoke and start dealing more constructively with both her addictions as they concern you. Just stay committed to your cigarette strike and your freedom from her “power” over you.

Stub it out!

BW

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Dear Up in Smoke,

You are giving your stress-driving co-worker all the power in your relationship. You have given her the power not only to stress you out, but to cause you to go back to smoking. You have no control over her actions in the office, but you certainly should be the last word on your reactions and—your health.

I know quitting smoking is incredibly hard. There is no doubt that if you have not found good substitutes for yourself when you are triggered by anger or overwhelming emotion that you will have an even greater struggle staying on the wagon. I suggest you find new ways to cope with stress when it arises.

Exercise, breathwork and meditation are my first suggestions. Take our De-stress Challenge for free and begin learning new coping skills that will help you move past reaction to balance. The easiest way to stay on the No-Smoking Wagon is to have a substitute that allows you to get past the tough times without needing to light up. Breathwork is extremely helpful with this because you practice new ways to deep breathe for calm, just like you do with a cigarette. For some, they only deep breathe when they are smoking. Follow along with our audio files and learn how to get air into the deepest reaches of your lungs. You’ll feel more relaxed and you won’t even have to leave the office to do it.

Remember, you cannot control anyone else’s actions, nor can they control yours. It is up to you to decide to stay strong or cave in because now you can justify that it is someone else’s fault. If you know this co-worker is a stressor, prepare for that. Learn to laugh it off—“so-and-so is always so predictable.” Or “Well, she’s consistent” and go on with your day. When she ceases to get such a rise out of you, her targeted stress attacks will become less frequent. After all, if this co-worker gets no reaction from you or a less satisfying reaction from you, the thrill will be gone. The stressor will look for another target, because you just won’t be as fun.

Remember, in the end, it is up to you. Even if she pushes all the right buttons in order, if you decide to light up, it’s on you. You really cannot blame someone else for giving in. Do it for yourself and the one’s who love you. This co-worker is already hurting your health by engendering the stress reaction. Let’s not hasten that health decline by adding toxins. I know it’s hard, but you can do. Give yourself the tools to make your resolve easier. No matter how much we may wish it otherwise, in the end it’s always up to you.

Happy breathing and good luck!

GoodWitch

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Dodgeball Ban in Schools: Inbounds or Automatic Out?

What are we teaching our next gen of citizens? The mere word “Dodgeball” brings up emotions and memories instantly, like a word association test. Since circa 2001 there’s been a growing movement to ban the PE game in schools. Does Dodgeball promote bullying and violence, or create anti-competitive wimps? Have some schools and educators gone too far by moving to kill an American institution all in the name of PC-love and understanding? This debate is seeing a second wave of interest and noise. Which side are you on? Let’s hear from parents, but especially you teachers out there. Oh…and there’s a poll after class (below).               — BadWitch


Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GW/BW – My daughter’s school is  considering finally banning Dodgeball. My husband is dead set against this, but I’m on the fence. I loved it, but I can see what they mean about teaching our kids good lessons like not bullying and non-violence. On the other hand, why do away with something so traditional? What are your thoughts?   – Dodgy Movement, City/State withheld

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Dear Dodgy Movement,

I am a parent who grew up in the late 70’s. Dodgeball, tag, and floor hockey (with plastic sticks) was all part of the normal Physical Education classes. I have to side with your husband. I love dodgeball, not because I was the best at it or because I was the bully who wanted to pick on smaller kids. I love dodgeball because it is a sport about life. You may be the under-dog, too small or too big and lanky with little coordination (that was me), but you have a skill you can rely on to survive.

For me, I was truly jazzed when the best dodgeball players would throw the ball at me. I knew I could not actually dodge the ball (read: big, lanky kid line), but I could catch the ball. I learned that even if the most popular or the biggest bully came after me, I had the resources to rise above it. I would sink to my knees, take the pain, catch the ball and deliver a resounding, “Ha! You’re out!” Dodgeball taught me that no matter what was stacked against me, I had my own unique skills to win. I wasn’t as small and agile at dodging the ball as some other kids, but I could catch that big red rubber ball. I could survive based on my own talents. That’s an important lesson.

Now, some schools go further than banning dodgeball. They ban any activity in which someone may lose. This means the demise of innocent games like musical chairs. This means everyone gets a medal so no one gets to say, “I’m number one!” How can we take these important life lessons away from our children? We don’t want our kids to lose and we don’t want them to be disappointed, which as a mom, I get. But at the same time that means we are avoiding giving our kids the lessons of how to rise above disappointment. How to grieve a loss of something small—like a game or a spelling bee—accept the lessons inherent in the situation and apply those lessons to do better the next time.

We are a society with a huge problem with perfectionism. We expect it from ourselves and our kids—despite the fact that one of the best lessons in life is failure. Albert Einstein was a horrible student. He failed a number of times. But he was allowed to fail and allowed to learn what he did wrong and what he did right. He could analyze what his strengths and weaknesses were so he knew where to apply himself. In the end, clearly, those lessons paid off. If our own children are not able to experience these lessons when they are children, we are dooming them to an adulthood of disappointment, with no coping skills to fall back on.

We think we are saving our kids by taking away every pain and every hurt. But these are the lessons that shape character. Raising children in a plastic bubble so they don’t have to experience the pain we have felt as children is cutting them off from experiencing life. It may seem like you are just asking about banning a violent game, but in truth, your school is hovering on a societal slippery slope. Take a step back from the edge. Let your children learn the lessons they need to succeed in life. Everyone will not be CEO. Everyone will not be President. Give them the tools to rebound now.

Play ball!

GoodWitch

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Dear Dodgy Mover,

I saw REAL Sports, too! In preparing my serious answer, I Googled “history + of + dodgeball” and was amazed to see that Asian cavemen in 50,000 B.C. invented this fine display of sportsmanship and competition, that our Founding Father and #1 Ranked Dodgeball Player George Washington later perfected. ‘Nuf said. I only wish we would take teaching critical thinking skills in school as seriously as dodgeball.

I personally hated Dodgeball because it’s not suited to my physicality. I’m not sure it fits my definition of “sport”, but am willing to take it at face value as a PE activity or game. Despite that I didn’t like and sucked at it, I am against hiding behind the PC notion that Dodgeball and similar touch-oriented games or activities in school lead to anti-socialism (bullies don’t learn that behavior in class), teaches violence (see football), promotes the notion there are no losers (get a Real Life). Just as in life, not every sport/activity is for everyone. Just as in life, not everyone is equally good at everything. Just as in many phases of life, Dodgeball borders on one of those rites of passage that must be endured or enjoyed, achieving near-bar mitzvah or prom status! It helps kids figure out what they are good at, how to deal with things they don’t like, how to help others who are weaker than them, and how to play fairly and within the lines.

Dodgeball (much less Tag and high-fiving!) should not be banned in schools. A healthy America cannot thrive by generating more over emotionally-charged, unrealistic whiners who think they are owed something more by merely existing and breathing the carbon dioxide of those hard workers who have firsthand experience and smarts about what consistent elbow grease, good attitude and self-determination it takes to get to Self-Actualization at the top of the Maslow’s Hieracrchy of Needs pyramid. And I am not equating “success” with “money” or any such external rewards exclusively, I’m talking about successfully being or dating a, or living or working with future ex-Dodgeball champs and survivors.

No Dodging Life is for the Living,

BW

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