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You Will Meet a Tall Positive New Year

Some of us are past “staying positive” – how to get it back. Avoiding starting a new year with the same old pissy feelings of ye olden year.   — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — This downer economy and our times in general are really getting me down. I have done everything I know how and then repeated it all, but I am starting to buy into the naysayers around me at work and even my church! I just need some suggestions so I can stay positive for a new year. Optimistic Oasis

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Dear Optimistic Oasis,

You’re not alone by a long shot. So here’s my non-advice advice. These last two economic years on top of our normal personal up and down cycles have made for a very long marathon challenging even the heartiest optimist among us. I’m sharing my end of an email exchange from a while back with a good friend and (like me) usually good spirited, even-tempered fella gal pal on releasing our own situational anger:

“…There is order and structure in our universe, in our lives. They are based on known and unseen laws of structure and the geometry of the universe. We must trust. ¶ You know I am working on releasing my anger, as well. My mama didn’t raise no dummy, so I will be the first NOT to lecture or give advice on this topic. I will only add to the support of my parallel walk to yours by saying that we GIVE others (and situations) our power (thereby energizing them and the thing in them that we allow to so infuriate us) via our emotions, like anger, and that we can master our emotions (like anger) easier when we first learn to play with and control our own powerful energy. When our minds choose to be happier, we can start the changes in our brains.”

So, Optimistic Oasis, energy flows where attention goes, and the laws of physics and gurus on mountaintops alike say that This, too, shall pass. So much more is right in our lives — be grateful and lighten up! When your mind chooses happiness, your brain can get the whole chain started.

Happy New focus,

BadWitch

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Dear Optimistic Oasis,

Really?! You have a job, friends, family and apparently your mental faculties and cannot stay positive? Listen, it is a matter of deciding to be happy. You may have challenges to face, but you have all the ingredients for a successful New Year. But, just like being sexy, you have to believe it for it to be true.

Here you are with a job, helping the economy come back by working, collecting a paycheck and, yes, paying taxes on that living wage. You may still have financial pressures, but you have a reliable source of income. That’s a blessing. You have friends and family that’s a HUGE blessing.

So what can I say, count your blessings ‘cause really, that’s all you’ve got.  For some reason, we as a culture have decided to focus on the negative—what’s wrong and what’s missing.  What good has that EVER done? This year, this New Year, decide to focus on what’s right in your world. Remember the friends who support you through thick and thin. Then take a moment to be grateful for it. Remember the blessings of a place to live, food on the table and a chance to make anything happen tomorrow because you are healthy and whole.

Gratitude is the key to optimism. As you remember to take stock of the life you have and be grateful for the blessings of that life, it becomes easier to expect that more goodness will follow. In fact, a practice of gratitude can help you reset your brain back to the optimistic side of things. And if your family and friends are still stuck on the 2012-end-of-the-world-hell-in-a-hand-basket view of things, start giving Less Stress More Life as New Year’s presents. Help them reset to optimistic too.

Stay strong. If you can breathe, you have a chance at a new day. You can create what you believe, so co-create some happiness in your life….and tell the naysayers to put their energy into the positive parts of their lives and let the rest  go to hell in the hand basket without them carrying it there directly.

Happy New Year!

GoodWitch

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Bully Schoolyard, Parents Want Discipline

Bullying in schools is pushing its way around again. Studies show girls bully emotionally and boys bully physically and emotionally. When bullying respects nothing and no one, and the parents won’t do anything about it.   — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — I’m at my wits end! My daughter is getting bullied at school by another girl. This has been going on for months. Now, my daughter’s backpack was stolen last week, but the school library books from the backpack returned! WTF?! I’ve tried talking to this girl’s parents, but they refuse to believe their “little angel” would do anything wrong. They think my daughter provokes the abuse! Again, WTF?! What can I do? This is an impossible situation for our whole family and, of course, most especially, my daughter.  — Over This Bully Bullsh–

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Dear Over This Bully Bullsh–,

It sounds like you need to get the school involved—teachers , principal. I know a lot of times kids who are being bullied are unwilling for their parents to get involved, but getting this out in the open is the only way to get this to stop. The bully needs to know there are consequences for her actions.

Now, as far as the girl’s parents protecting their “little angel,” remember bullies are made, not born. Something is clearly troubling this girl to leave her over-flowing with aggression. I’m not saying this to blame or excuse the parents. It sounds like it is time to have a hard-nosed talk with her parents. If you really believe this girl is responsible or the missing backpack, have her parents check her room. No one deserves to have their personal belongings stolen. No one deserves abuse. If they still don’t get it, go through the school.

Remind your daughter to go through the appropriate channels when the bullying starts. Trying to handle it her self simply isn’t working. Also, both you and your daughter should do some self-esteem and stress management training. Work with her to give her the tools she needs to grow into a confident  woman. Remind her that tomorrow may hold an entirely different future. Don’t let her get stuck here, seeing herself as a victim. Give her the tools to rise above it.

My heart and my prayers go out to your family. Constantly dealing with someone else’s misplaced aggression is frustrating, depressing and maddening. You need to remember and remind your daughter that petty tyrants are our best teachers. Help your daughter define how she contributes to the situation. Does she retaliate instead of seeking assistance from a teacher? Does she refuse to stand up for herself, protecting her rights? Changing our behavior has the effect of changing a dynamic and with it people’s reactions. Remind her that bullies target those who they will get a satisfying reaction from–once achieved they continue to bully to get more of that reaction. If your daughter stops reacting or changes tactics by telling a teacher, there is a good chance the bully will move on to another target.

Talk to your principal. What strategies do they have in place to deal with bullies? Research and connect them with groups that do bully workshops. Get other parents involved and educate the educators if need be. Be proactive.

Sending you waves of support,

GoodWitch

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Dear Over Bully Bullsh–,

What right thinking person would disagree that our schools, not just should, but need to be a safe haven for children against bullying? When today’s bullies come in all shapes, sizes and social ranking, but often teachers and schools are still opting for the elaborate Time Out (and resulting in yet more bullying to suicide), it’s way past time to step up our tools. I’m not usually a fan of attempts at legislating how people get along, but the apparent lack of good parenting, and schools’ tied hands, against this well-noted rise in school aggression, anger and bullying, seem to call for it. This national epidemic is in need of Congressional legislation to help in providing teachers and schools training, proactive peer counseling/motivation techniques and supportive rules and laws against violence and bullying. Hey, if it takes laws to get the job done, perhaps our larger society’s PC-silence, violence enabling and anti-violence laws will toughen up to reflect this disturbing and growing trend of child disrespect, coarseness, and bullying-as-conflict-resolution (learned and perpetuated by their own slack online-social mores, violent video games and movies, and a seeming lack of adult guidance to civility and cooperation).

Closer to home, what can you do to help and support your daughter, and foster in her trust and openness in relationships, rather than cynicism and negativity and — stop bullying now ? Try eating dinner together as a family. Limit TV daily viewing (studies show each additional hour spent in front of the TV per week at age 2-1/2 corresponded to a 10% increase in being bullied by peers; the finding suggests these kids are “learning to be just a passive receptacle”), and stick to it! My mom didn’t let us go out and play until our homework was done; adapt this to your schedule but the rule is: “Responsibilities first.” Encourage cooperation between your own children and their friends, e.g., homework to sharing and giving away (charity) toys and even TV time — then don’t forget to recognize and applaud their constructive activity, e.g., “Good job – I appreciate your helping your brother without my asking you to.” Help them build habits of cooperation, civility and connection that will serve them well on and off the schoolyard, and into adolescence and adult citizens of our society at large.

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BadWitch

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Depressed Economy, Depression Nation?

sad_manHappy Labor Day! I’m the Queen of Irony, right? Will this protracted economic downturn only serve to produce higher GND (Gross National Depression)? Maybe. But you’ve got to believe you can change before it becomes a change you can believe in.  — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — Downsizing is the new black. How do we keep living in style without spending so much money? I’m totally ok not buying, buying, buying like a crack addict but I honestly don’t see how this economic downturn won’t create a depressed nation too. Another link in the fallen empire. Know what I mean? — Conservative Trendster

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Dear ConTrend,

Coach-fucius say: First off, depression is a very serious thing (and I believe depression is not a “disease” to just pop a pill for) — it’s big issues and related emotions repressed and not dealt with over time (two weeks to 40+ years, same diff), come home to roost as lethargy, apathy, or other serious and intense down-in-the-dumps quality of life-detracting symptoms. Good news!, you seem to understand the core issue that is making you feel frustrated, scared, sad and/or all of the above. In other words, you don’t have to be depressed. And neither does our alter ego empire. Rx: Choose to expect better for yourself/us. Change  happens anyway, small steps we want and can commit to take us a very long, long way.

Amuse me. Let’s assume most people accept that life is all about change, and that in fact, most of them aren’t resistant to changing for the better. But that when it comes down to actually making those changes, most of those people make excuses instead. And yet, change stubbornly happens and those who resisted are left feeling cheated and even…depressed.

Crock ‘O Classic Why-I-Can’t-Change: 1) I have no discipline/will power; 2) what I have is good enough for me; 3) I try but then nothing happens, or if it does, it doesn’t stick.

Crock Blockers by Reframing:

1)    Weakness – Up your change chances. Choose only the small changes you’re willing to actually do like give up one cup of CarmelLatteccino/day, and walk to meetings instead of paying $20 to park for 30 minutes

2)    Undeserving – If you earned it (school, work, sacrifice) in life, then you deserve more, and by more I mean better. Don’t show the world you deserve less because you will get it (and by get I mean earn).

3)    Lust for immediate gratification – Act your age not your shoe size. If change were easy, everyone would be happy and perfect and I wouldn’t have anywhere to be smarmy (but helpful). If you’re lucky, life is a long trek. Set yours to be a more optimistic one and consistently make choices to support that goal. Be flexible, things happen. But keep your eye on that goal either way.

Don’t look at “style” being synonymous with spending money. It helps. But if you truly have style, you naturally exude it including how you eat, dress, and live (Your home, Your thoughts). Sweeping change like we’re collectively going through, is as a much-needed Spring Cleaning — update who you are and don’t end up stuck with old lady/man ideas before…ever!

Small steps are sustainable,

BW

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Dear Conservative Trendsetter,

I like to believe this downsizing is not the next link to a fallen empire, but rather the first baby steps toward realigning consumer spending with real values. Consumer confidence has been shaken to the core. Retirement accounts have disappeared and although foreclosure rates and lay-offs are slowing, unemployment is at its highest rate in a generation. It may not be the Great Depression, but this depressed economy is taking its toll. Turn around, however, is possible, though we will not see hiring freezes lifted for some time.

So, for the average American still lucky enough to have gainful employment, I say, don’t go crazy. Spend your money where it matters to you most. If you have a favorite restaurant you want to see after the smoke has cleared, you should be making room in your budget for them now. If you have favored vendors: printers, cleaners, bakery, etc. that you depend on, I suggest you stretch your finances to support them through this economic downturn.

Before things get better, they always seem to get worse. Any parent who has had to potty train a child knows that they regress messy diaper reliance just before they really, truly get it and move beyond diapers forever. So it is, I believe, with the world economy. We have relied on external validation from designer labels and status cars to define who we are. Moving further and further away from the basics of life that offer true satisfaction. Retail therapy has fleeting joy, often followed by guilt and remorse. We are now in withdrawal from retail addiction. As we shake and sweat it out, favoring the places that truly feed us, we are weeding out the detritus. Our downsizing, in my opinion, is helping that process along. That which does not serve us will fall away.

Life is cyclical. Just like plant life, it grows, flourishes and wanes before starting the process over again. We have been here before— 1929, 1983—and we’ve come back. So, now we are hear again. Tighten your belts. Apply the extra in your budget you have to the products, businesses and events that feed your soul—the ones that make you happy, fill you with energy and inspire you. In this way, you help reshape the economy and culture we recover from this financial crisis. Remember, crisis is opportunity. Don’t believe the hype. See the issues. See the possibilities and act accordingly.

Happy shopping,

GoodWitch

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“Nothing to fear but fear itself.” — Franklin Delano Roosevelt

BE043560Now is when stress can stop you from making a better way for yourself. Now, when the media sends us pictures of greedy pirates in suits and boats making off with our security, we must wake up to the possibilities around us. Reacting in anger, freezing mid-step or running for the hills will not help you now. Breathe, find your center, then plot your course forward. Believe there are opportunities to enrich your circumstances in the middle of this financial muddle. The status quo no longer exists. A fresh approach could lead to greater satisfaction and a new way of being could lead to greater security. In Chinese, the character for crisis is also the character for opportunity.   — GoodWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GW/BW – I work at one of the major corporations that has received TARP money. I used to manage a large group, and watched it dwindle over the past year. Now after this financial mess, I am managing myself plus a couple on and off temps. I used to love my job, but now it just feels like waiting for the other shoe to drop. How do I keep going in with my best attitude like this day after day indefinitely? My family needs the money.  – Hash Marker

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Dear Hash Marker,

Please pardon the Monday morning sobriety from one who’s regularly accused of being The Eternal Optimist. Wall Street greed infected and weakened our country’s economic and ethical systems. The trickle down to Main Street (and its own inhabitants who must share relative blame of same) is an unfortunate by-product of recovery through rebalance (whether it can take root and be sustained, remains to be seen — and affected — by all) that will continue on, most likely (and if we’re lucky), through the end of this year. In other words, these are the circumstances we are all dealing with, there’s no happy option of “whether” in this case, , and undoubtedly, we don’t like it.

My observation and suggestion are one and the same for you. You must have done something right in your company’s eyes to maintain your job during this time of ferocious deconstruction of old systems and lives. You can be more than a survivor by just keeping your head down and…dealing with one day at a time. If you must make changes, then you will. Don’t look too far out into the future, for this will only create and sustain worry in you which you will only draw more of to you which you will have to untangle to survive…and so on… Don’t look back at the glory days of the past. That’s where they are. Done and over. Stay present in your skills and luck (and I believe we make our own) and strength of being for yourself and your family.

Let your strength of hope and optimism be permanent in our impermanent existence. All is not necessarily as it seems, but it certainly is what you make it.

Shoulder to shoulder,

BadWitch

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Dear Hash Marker,

In these uncertain times, keeping your optimism up can be more than a little daunting. We have all seen the shrinking work force, shrinking wallets and shrinking morale. But you can’t let yourself get stuck there.

In your case, it is important to continue your work with your best face forward. Right now, a good attitude may be the weighty factor that keeps you employed. The good news is that if you are left to manage the temps and contract workers for your department, you are needed. Someone will need to manage and coordinate freelance workers. If your company is solvent chances are your job is safe.

However, none of us can bank on that these days. If you know you need a job to support your family, start looking for back-up jobs now. Now is the time to research, send resumes and get out there. You may find a position that pays you more money. But you will never know if you are just waiting around for “the other show to drop.”

My other suggestion is to do what you can to make yourself indispensable to your current employer. Are there other departments you can help out with? I remember starting off as at a newspaper years ago as the person who typed in classified ads for automotive and real estate.   This was not satisfying as work or as a paycheck. I started helping out in Creative Services whenever they were overwhelmed. I became a regular fixture asking if they needed help and using my lunch hour or times I finished my work early to assist. I was quickly promoted to Creative Services and worked there full time with a pay increase. I made myself indispensable.

In these times where a good attitude at work can earn you Passover points when the pink slips are handed out, making yourself the go-to person for more than one area within the company can give you security. So keep up your buoyancy. You have all the tools you need to give yourself more job security where you are, while keeping your options open for better situations. You have more power than you think.

Good luck,

GW

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I See Green Chutes. Do You?

obama.econ.advsrsPresident Obama sees ’em. In his economy update last Tuesday in Georgetown, while wary to declare “good news” too certainly or too soon, he did say he and his economic team “are starting to see glimmers of hope.” Chair of Council for Economic Advisers, Christina Romer, said that while there will be inevitably more job losses and pain, she expressed hope that we could bottom out by Q3 or Q4 this year “and then actually, finally be on the upswing.” No on really knows anything, but how do YOU feel about things financial, nationally and personally?? Sound off in Comments. — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GW/BW – How do I keep a healthy economic outlook when all I’m hearing is gloom and doom? — Small Business Owner, Oakland, CA

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Dear Small Business Owner,

You ask a legitimate question in a loaded way. It sounds to me like you already believe a healthy economic outlook is an optimistic one, despite a storm of gloom and doom forecasting and media babbling. Here’s me supporting you: spread the seeds of confidence, the lack of it is a huge contributing factor to this crisis. Follow your actual (and useful) industry trends, but don’t watch the news in an unfocused way. Focus more on the micro pieces you can control, and just keep an informed eye on the macro ones you can’t. Keep doing what you do best. Run your business in the unique way only you can offer your clients and peers. Cut your costs, protect your assets, but also keep your eye out for opportunities this time of challenge might actually offer you. Stay focused on the right things, SBO. Keep your optimistic view alive through wise and realistic choices and business best practices I suspect you have already observed in the last down cycle.

Keep investing in the faith,

BW

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From GoodWitch:

Faith means believing in something you can’t feel or see or touch. It’s knowing in your heart that despite what the outward appearances tell you, something better is destined for you. In these times of economic transition, we need to hold on to faith that the good times will return, even though the news forecasts doom and gloom at every turn. Faith, self-reliance and common sense are needed right now. Take a deep breath, click your heels three times if you need to and remember, it may not look right now and it may not look like our perfect picture, but it will be all right. How do you know? Faith.

— GoodWitch

How do I keep a healthy economic outlook when all I’m hearing is gloom and doom? —Gloominous Doom

Dear Gloominous Doom,

Not to sound like your mother, but if everybody was jumping off a bridge, would you jump? We may think, of course not, but here we are unable to picture a bright beautiful new beginning for our economy because we keep hearing gloom and doom stories on the news, in the paper and from just about anyone else we’re willing to listen to. Stop! This is no time to jump just because everyone else is. Listen, everyone was sure the Titanic was unsinkable. Did that make it so?

It is time to remember that the Great Depression was quite the opportunity for many people. Rockefeller, Odlum, Keynes all made hundreds of millions during the Great Depression. What does this mean? Crisis can actually mean opportunity if you stay grounded, hold on to the possibility of a better tomorrow and keep sharp for sows ears that can be refurbished into silk purses.

Our economy is going through a HUGE transition. Corrections must be made. The wealth must be distributed more equitably. Now is the time when someone with gumption, foresight and the drive to make it can create new wealth for themselves. Bootleggers, like the Kennedy’s, made HUGE family fortunes during the Depression. Keep your eyes open. If you believe you can create better for yourself than what you’ve seen on the news about rising unemployment and plummeting stock prices, you can.

Sound all rose colored glasses to you? It shouldn’t. Life is cyclical. Sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. This is economically as well as in any other area of life. The trick is to stay optimistic during the down times that a positive outcome is possible. John D. Rockefeller said, “These are days when many are discouraged. In the 93 years of my life, depressions have come and gone. Prosperity has always returned and will again.” And, let’s face it, he made out all right during the Depression.

Listen, the future won’t fix itself without some hard work on our parts, some tough decision-making and, quite frankly, a heaping helping of faith that the down part of the cycle will eventually come up again. Do the work. Start that business on the side that has been your life-long dream. Remember that designer labels don’t make you likeable or lovable. Get rich schemes usually only work for the Madoff who came up with the scam in the first place. Save where you can and plan on a better day. And, at least a couple nights a week, turn off the news. Focus on what you want to create for yourself and let yourself out of the societal box of “this is how you get rich” or “I need to do this to be accepted.” All bets are off now. It’s up to you, your creativity, your own hard work and the opportunities you can carve out for yourself to move forward to a better tomorrow.

Remember your optimism and, please, try to play nice with the other weary travelers on the road.

Believe to achieve,

GW

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BadWitch: Finding Optimism

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Be optimistic during times of strife and stress? What are you thinking?! And even if you are a Half-Full kind of person, doesn’t the Sybil in you just want to ask: yeah, but full of what? If this is you, click yes and keep reading me. For the rest of you, keep reading me.

Some people are tempted to be smarmy about “optimism,” but the quest for this quality during challenging times doesn’t have to be a ridiculous, trifling or an, um…optimistic ideal. I solidly believe in this esoteric idea: we already know everything we need to know to be happier, centered and highly functioning in life. All we have to do is to remember what we dreamed to live our largest life possible. See?, now that is the ridiculously challenging quest! But I believe in you.

Parse the smoke and mirrors. During times like these when financial pundits, foreign policy experts, and Joe the Plumbers alike espouse “never seen anything like this before”-isms freely and regularly on CNN, FOX News and other squawk boxes 24/7, the trick to surviving the mess with less stress isn’t “knowing what to do,” but rather “how to (think).” The problems are still going to be there whether you know what to do about them or not. I’m not saying shirk your responsibilities; just stop worrying about worrying, and start thinking right.

The trick to remembering your “how to (thrive)” is focus. Right focus. Right focus, even through all the distractions, external and the noise you bring. Devil’s playground, and all… Best to practice shutting your own mind trap first. The rest of the din grows surprisingly quieter soon after. Discipline your child, discipline your mind.

Optimism is just another goal. A choice. What you think and the choices you make are the difference. Be the Optimism you want to see, grasshoppa. Redirect all that thinking at your Big Picture, not the petty, annoying or worrisome details you usually allow 95% of your brain cache. Garbage in, garbage out, yes? Then once you’re focused on your Big Picture, you have a place to go, a.k.a. a destination. Now, I know everyone loves to get all Joseph Campbell-y about “the journey” and I’m a JC believer like that, too!, it’s true, life is a journey not the destination. But that’s not always how our silly big ole Humunkie minds work, darlin’s. Switch it up. Right focus on the Big Picture of the life quality you came here to create for yourself, then go all Nike action plan and just do it. And then get up and try again the next and next day…

So I’ll ask you again: What are you thinking? It’s as simple and hard as that. Attaining a lasting inner peace, especially when tested during loud, thin, false distraction-laden and hard times like these, takes practice. The practice of conscious intentions (Big Picture) and right focus (the daily walk of your talk). Practice is what we all do between birth and death. With any luck, we’ve all got a lot of practice to do, so better get offline and…just start wherever you are.

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GoodWitch: Finding Optimism

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In these times of stress, how do you stay optimistic? Repetitive worries become unconscious mantras spiraling us into deeper levels of stress and depression. It is a vicious cycle that can lead us into illness and disease.

You cannot really break the cycle with some Stuart Smiley “everything is going to be OK,” self-talk when you do not really know or believe that everything will be OK. People losing jobs and homes in an economy fueled by fear find it hard to see everything will be OK from where they are standing now.

So, the question is, “How do you become optimistic, even in the worst of times?” Be in gratitude for these dark parts of the journey. It may sound crazy, but I have found it to be the road to redemption.

Trust in what you know. Know that you are brave. This is evidenced by your bravery to see the obstacles and make a way forward anyway. Life may have knocked you to your knees, but the will to survive pushes you to stand up again. We do not lie down to die because we face financial crisis. We get up and look for a way to make it back onto solid ground. That takes courage. Congratulate yourself for doing what needs to be done—whether its debt management, credit counseling, finding another job or any of the other million and one possible obstacles you may be facing in this moment.

This dark place in the journey is an opportunity. This is the place where you find self-reliance and stretch beyond past limitations to see a way through. It is a place where you find new abilities. I am not saying this place is free of cursing and tears, only that it is an opportunity to push off from the solidity of the bottom to reach new heights.

Know that you are brave. Know that tomorrow does not have to look like today. Breath into the truth that you are the only one like you in the universe and that makes you as precious as a rare and priceless work of art.

Touch on the self-reliance that got you out of bed and stretch it forward. Try new ideas. It will not be comfortable, but it will be a step forward. Remember, it is a road. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other on the path.

Now, thank yourself for coming to this place—to see the wrongs and fix them. Thank yourself for allowing this experience—all the pain and the glory—so that you could step forward stronger and wiser. Repeat these steps everyday. And remember a better day is possible. Believe.

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