Sometimes we responsible, mature adults just get so inundated with life – there’s no time to breath. As usual BadWitch asks the tough questions, “But what about me?” Parent hard, live hard. Play hardly…?… Play is very serious healthy medicine, Mr. Man. — BadWitch
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Dear GWBW — I’m a single parent stressed too much with too much to do still How do I chill out?! — Brillo Pad Bernie
Dear Brillo Pad Bernie,
Apparently you don’t even have enough free time to punctuate! I’m a thinker and I think the biggest problem with thinking is that we all tend to think too much. What’d you think about what I’m thinking here? Honey, if you continue to keep your clock so tightly wound, you’ll boinnng! a spring and end up cuckoo, all right. Play, playing, playfulness are all part of staying healthy. Play for your health.
Bernie silly wabbit, remember that getting your fun, kicks and joy out ain’t just kid stuff, it’s for serious, bill-paying, job-working, parenting, dating, commuting large-sized kids, too. If this is just too much of a gear shift for busy, active, no-time-for-yourself you, then don’t stop and get playing now! Drop and give me 10 right where you are, soldier. Ten minutes of straight up fun, on the floor with your kids rolling around, at the kitchen table drawing and scribbling nonsense, mudpie-making, at the park swinging and climbing monkey-style. If you must keep it all Big, Tom Hanks, go run at the beach, hike a hill, ride a bike or just pop wheelies then…go home. Bernie, play isn’t brain surgery (but it’s soo good for the brain from producing happy hormones to building neurons and synapse connections that stave off things like, gulp!, mind fog to dementia), even stressed out single parents used to having absolutely no time on their hands can do it. Build it into your daily routine for and when you’re by yourself, with your kids, and even at the store (run-push then ride your cart!). Virtually everything can be turned into a game (and coming up with “How” ‘til you get the hang of it again) — includes figuring out How Bernie Plays.
Maybe you just need to Channel Justin Timberlake to get your sexy back. Are you still here? You’ve cleaned your room, plate and done your homework — now go outside and play! Less Stress More LIFE.
Get your happy on,
Dear Brillo Pad Bernie,
Yours is not a new story, sadly. Being a parent in today’s non-stop-need-it-now-instant-gratification world can be overwhelming, but you’ve got to take time to play.
The first thing to do is know that perfection is not possible. Something must give way for other things to get done.
I tried my damndest to keep my house clean, kids fed, food in the fridge, work delivered on time and laundry up to date. I drove myself crazy and became more than a little frumpy because there was no actual time left for me to hang out with my kids or myself, for that matter. I would give up sleep so I could get more done and have some personal time. I was on the burn-out express.
Instead I learned to trade off. I could do the dishes immediately after dinner or I could hang out with my kids. I could stay up and do laundry or I could take some quite time for myself and get to bed at a decent hour. Eventually everything has to get done, but trading off the time to give you time to breath is of the most importance. In the end, if you are laid up sick, who takes care of the kids? Who takes care of the caregiver?
It’s time to remember how to play. Start by taking the kids to the park and instead of watching them or talking to the other parents, play. Go swing or chase the kids around in a game of tag. You’ll laugh. You’ll get exercise. You’ll free up your spirit and renew your energy levels and focus for the work yet to be done.
You can lay by inviting a few select fellow parents out for a night of dancing and, yes, drinking. Remember going out? You’ll all be renewed in energy, enlivened in spirit and shaking your groove thing before you know it.
Playing frees up your creativity and allows you some time to replenish your spirit. And if you don’t make an effort to replenish, you lose out on the best anti-aging serum in the Universe. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not ticked off a to do list. Face it, the meaningful moments of life usually cannot be found on a to do list. The meaningful moments in life happen when you are living. So, Live. Eat Happy and PLAY!
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