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You Will Meet a Tall Positive New Year

Some of us are past “staying positive” – how to get it back. Avoiding starting a new year with the same old pissy feelings of ye olden year.   — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — This downer economy and our times in general are really getting me down. I have done everything I know how and then repeated it all, but I am starting to buy into the naysayers around me at work and even my church! I just need some suggestions so I can stay positive for a new year. Optimistic Oasis


Dear Optimistic Oasis,

You’re not alone by a long shot. So here’s my non-advice advice. These last two economic years on top of our normal personal up and down cycles have made for a very long marathon challenging even the heartiest optimist among us. I’m sharing my end of an email exchange from a while back with a good friend and (like me) usually good spirited, even-tempered fella gal pal on releasing our own situational anger:

“…There is order and structure in our universe, in our lives. They are based on known and unseen laws of structure and the geometry of the universe. We must trust. ¶ You know I am working on releasing my anger, as well. My mama didn’t raise no dummy, so I will be the first NOT to lecture or give advice on this topic. I will only add to the support of my parallel walk to yours by saying that we GIVE others (and situations) our power (thereby energizing them and the thing in them that we allow to so infuriate us) via our emotions, like anger, and that we can master our emotions (like anger) easier when we first learn to play with and control our own powerful energy. When our minds choose to be happier, we can start the changes in our brains.”

So, Optimistic Oasis, energy flows where attention goes, and the laws of physics and gurus on mountaintops alike say that This, too, shall pass. So much more is right in our lives — be grateful and lighten up! When your mind chooses happiness, your brain can get the whole chain started.

Happy New focus,



Dear Optimistic Oasis,

Really?! You have a job, friends, family and apparently your mental faculties and cannot stay positive? Listen, it is a matter of deciding to be happy. You may have challenges to face, but you have all the ingredients for a successful New Year. But, just like being sexy, you have to believe it for it to be true.

Here you are with a job, helping the economy come back by working, collecting a paycheck and, yes, paying taxes on that living wage. You may still have financial pressures, but you have a reliable source of income. That’s a blessing. You have friends and family that’s a HUGE blessing.

So what can I say, count your blessings ‘cause really, that’s all you’ve got.  For some reason, we as a culture have decided to focus on the negative—what’s wrong and what’s missing.  What good has that EVER done? This year, this New Year, decide to focus on what’s right in your world. Remember the friends who support you through thick and thin. Then take a moment to be grateful for it. Remember the blessings of a place to live, food on the table and a chance to make anything happen tomorrow because you are healthy and whole.

Gratitude is the key to optimism. As you remember to take stock of the life you have and be grateful for the blessings of that life, it becomes easier to expect that more goodness will follow. In fact, a practice of gratitude can help you reset your brain back to the optimistic side of things. And if your family and friends are still stuck on the 2012-end-of-the-world-hell-in-a-hand-basket view of things, start giving Less Stress More Life as New Year’s presents. Help them reset to optimistic too.

Stay strong. If you can breathe, you have a chance at a new day. You can create what you believe, so co-create some happiness in your life….and tell the naysayers to put their energy into the positive parts of their lives and let the rest  go to hell in the hand basket without them carrying it there directly.

Happy New Year!



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New Year’s Evolution

What a decade. Usually secure and grounded people we know felt everything from shocked from the first market bust, to eh!, to sad to depressed and back again. A fresh, shiny new year is nearly upon us. Appreciating your opportunities, yourself,

to make lasting change.    — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — I’d like 2010 to be better than this year. Do you have any suggestions? I’ve been feeling a bit sad these last few weeks (my work is going well though).   — Blue’s Not my Color


Dear Blue’s Not My Color,

I’m with you! 2010 should be better! Well, I wish I could promise you lollipops and rainbows, but “life is gonna do what it do.” It’s up to us to decide the past is done and no longer has power over you. It’s done. Now, plot your course for the future, make the navigation corrections and full speed ahead. Depression starts by drafting around past history, judgments and ideas. What has happened is done. The only hold it still has over you is the power you give it to define your present and future. Decide to make a fresh start. Accept what has been. Recognize the past is over and decide to live a new life. Now.

2009 was a seriously trying year. Stress was the name of the game. We are at the start of a major evolutionary shift in our culture—and it’s definitely been a bumpy ride. But now that we know uncertainty is the name of the game, it’s up to us to decide the surf the waves as best we can.

The time has come to decide how you will live your life going forward. Will you be happy? Decide to make it so. Not in some throw away New Year’s resolution kind of way, but in a deep, meaningful, “I’m changing my life” way. Decide. Start by adding serotonin-producing foods to your diet. It will help lift some of the blues.

Then start a meditation practice. Make a habit of taking some time every day to picture yourself living the life you want to live. What are you imagining? Making more friends? Feeling secure and happy? Learning new skills (cooking, yoga, whatever)? The more you allow yourself the space to imagine your ideal life, the more information you have about what is missing now. My suggestion? Add it. Take the class. Call some friends for a night out.  Choose to do what you will do, cause life is gonna do what it do.

The mantra for 2010: “I choose, so all I have to do is decide. I decide to be happy.”

Good Luck,



Dear Non-Smurf,

I doubt there’s anyone who doesn’t want 2010 to be a fresh start. When better to look forward than an entirely new and clean decade? The shift into the third millennium was a bumpy ride all right, Bette Davis — and 2009 just seems to have been an appropriate capper for it all. From the tech bubble burst, 9-11, the global financial crisis, housing bubble, to global warming events/signs escalation…whoa!, that’s a whole lotta prompts for us all as individuals to make meaningful changes for more evolved living.

I’ve been on a lifelong quest of self-improvement, inspiration and spiritual expansion.  To my mind, work and personal lives are intertwined more these days than ever before. These suggestions might help you improve both:

• get to know yourself a little better every day. Journaling, participating in common interests groups for feedback and exchange, get some coaching, these types of activities help you get a more objective look at yourself and, anywhere from immediately to over decades, can help you make better, more personal value-based decisions, then…

• don’t make resolutions you won’t likely keep. In this area, pick just one habit or quality you’d like to improve about yourself and make a yearlong plan/goal, then scale it back to monthly To Do items/activities to support it. Make the daily changes small but do-able– especially at first, then challenge yourself as you go – you will actually change your habit(s) in three (3) weeks. Repeat, rehash, again, one more time! This will also help you…

be kinder and gentler with yourself NOW!!! (haha), the kinder you act, the kinder you will become. This is an extremely under-recognized affliction and, I believe, partially explains how carelessly we treat each other and mindlessly we occupy each day….which could be how we got to this place…

That’s “it.” Know, improve and be kinder to yourself. Empathy for others through self-love.  We are all connected, so when we value and treat ourselves and each other with more care, we can become the change we can believe in.

Gratitude, hope and consciousness,



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