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Putting the Real You Back in Relationships (inspiration)

“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”
~ Anthony Robbins

“To give vent now and then to his feelings, whether of pleasure or discontent, is a great ease to a man’s heart.”  ~ Francesco Guicciardini

Never apologize for showing feeling.  When you do so, you apologize for the truth.  ~ Benjamin Disraeli

“You meet someone and you’re sure you were lovers in a past life. After two weeks with them, you realize why you haven’t kept in touch for the last two thousand years.” ~ Al Cleathen

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Putting the Real You Back in Relationships (BW)

Who hasn’t been “fake” in relationships at one point or another in their life? While it “makes sense” that a lot of the in-authenticity practiced in relationships happens in adolescence and 20s when we’re trying to figure it all out, we all know that isn’t the case. Why? A habit set? Not enough confidence? This pattern interests me. Today I’m referring to “relationships” as the fleeting insignificant ones to deep partnerships, the personal and business ones — in other words, all of them. I’m even talking about the times we smile and are nicer than we actually feel to a service worker or other facilitator, just to get on with it.

The state of our relationships reflects who we are at any given time in our development. If we don’t like our relating/relationships with people, perhaps a good look at how we are relating to ourselves is called for. Look at how many times you have lied versus told the truth in the past day, then week. To put an even finer point on it, my wise colleague Marlene Caldes touts the difference between Truth (your quick and unblinking “yes” or “no”) and Honesty (the story and explanations you tell others). So when you run this exercise, I urge you to note the difference (and number of times) you tell a lie, are honest or tell the truth. How can we expect to be real in our relationships if we can’t be with ourselves?

If you find you are more authentic than not in your communications but are still in a few relationships that don’t feel quite right, take the next inventory of your relationships themselves and see which one (or types) could use some tweaking and tuning, and those that are past their Sell By date. Will it be hard or easier to improve your communications and (emotional) truthfulness in some over others (types)? Why? How can you share the most authentic you in all relationships (you know, the ones where you are in the room, car or the other’s mind)? — BadWitch

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