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“Everything is Connected” (inspiration)

“All is connected… no one thing can change by itself.” ~ Paul Hawken

“The energy of the mind is the essence of life.” ~ Aristotle

“A book is like a piece of rope; it takes on meaning only in connection with the things it holds together.” ~ Norman Cousins

“And I don’t want to begin something, I don’t want to write that first sentence until all the important connections in the novel are known to me. As if the story has already taken place, and it’s my responsibility to put it in the right order to tell it to you.” ~ John Irving

“Cherish your human connections: your relationships with friends and family.” ~ Joseph Brodsky

“The release of atomic energy has not created a new problem. It has merely made more urgent the necessity of solving an existing one.” ~ Albert Einstein

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“Everything is Connected” (BW)

Everything in the universe is made up of energy. That mouse under your hand, your annoying friend, the rock in the road, you. All energy. Quantum physics can quantify that everything is energy. The Big Picture (and you) is comprised of itself over and over: the larger whole repeated smaller and smaller in size to the sub-atomic level. This means YOU are an expression of the Universe.

Understanding that everything is energy is to recognize that matter (e.g., what we look like, an amazing car, the money in your wallet) is mostly illusion. At the subatomic level matter is full of the same empty spaces which like the spaces that are not empty, consists of energy in constant motion. The most striking level for me about connection is that as you think, so your reality goes. For better or worse. Energy connection is everywhere. Pattern as lesson, no such thing as coincidence as syncronicity. Acupuncturists and all manner of energy workers know, you can move and manipulate energy to heal (via the body’s energy channels known, Chinese medicine calls them meridians, chakras in Hindu practices) — this means there is a real expectation to reality connection, and intention as map foundation.

Everything is energy. Energy is the common stuff of the universe. Everything is connected. The fabric of the universe is connected, same energy.

Wouldn’t we all be better off to hold this in mind as we walk through the world? Wouldn’t we tend to more often treat others and things as we would want to be treated? When we treat others poorly, we are quite literally hurting ourselves. That Golden Rule makes practical as rational and spiritual sense, doesn’t it? — BadWitch

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Trust (inspiration)

“Trust, but verify.” ~ Ronald Reagan

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough.” ~ Frank Crane

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Playin’ the Numbers: Truthfulness

Why can’t we all tell the truth all the time? And didn’t Jim Carey and Ricky Gervaise already star in those? No, yes they di’ent. — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — I would say I’m 90% if not 95% truthful. Why is it so hard for me to go all the way on the small things sometimes? I really want to be a 100% honest but not a sucker. Do you think this is even possible? Numbers Player

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Dear Numbers Player,

A QUESTion for the ages. If we were perfect, why the heck would we need to be here to practice, learn lessons of how to be…better? The small things are usually the hardest things, as well. Think about living with someone you really like or even love. It’s not the big life questions that, on average, get people — but the squeezing the toothpaste tube-esque ones. The annoying niggling things in your saddle you don’t often realize. Those are the things you might want to really take a look at, with regard to your honesty-dishonesty practice. The only other thing I have to contribute is that life is all about probabilities. From physics to insurance tables, there’s no such thing as a sure thing.

Only the naïve believe in absolutes,

BadWitch

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Dear Numbers Player,

What is with the questions this week? Is it possible? Can it be done? Listen, either you have the will to do what you will or you do not. Either you want to be a truthful person or you don’t. Yes, life will throw you curve balls when being fully honest is neither compassionate nor kind. So, what’s more important?

Listen, either you can be an honest person or you can’t. And what separates the two is no more than your will and repeated practice. Either you set yourself to the task like any person working to create a new habit engrained to truth.

I can’t tell you what is possible. That is for each and every person to decide. Either you believe living an honest life is worth the work or you don’t. I can tell you from experience, however, an honest life is a lot less work. No lies to remember. What you see is what you get. Kind of leaves more time for you to be you…and develop some other well-engrained habits. Evolution is great. Everyone should try it.

Good luck,

GoodWitch

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Trust (BW)

Last week seemed extra long and was definitely hard for me. A beloved parent received shockingly sudden serious news from the doctor. I’m pretty far down the road of senior parent care, so in the midst of all the business and chaos (but even to my own surprise), this time I found that I had earned the luxury of being philosophical. And I thought a lot about “Trust” (my thoughts about its partner “Surrender).

My general formula for Trust is that we all start out with 100% open trust in our psycho-emotional bank, then are debited the percentage of whatever happened to us in life by, say, age 5. If that sum is 50% or higher, we have a corresponding tendency to trust people and situations in life. If it’s 49% or below, we will commensurately see the world as a booby-trapped place fraught with ways to be hurt or worse, disappointed. Leave room for gradations of gray on both sides. Then from a strictly legal definition, a “Trust” means: A relationship created at the direction of an individual, in which one or more persons hold the individual’s property subject to certain duties to use and protect it for the benefit of others. And there you have it. It obviously behooves us to have the most Trust possible. To have Trust in life, is for one’s own benefit, and the benefit of those in her/his life.

This city girl grew up with the benefit of a high Trust quotient. I strive to share that wealth with anyone around me who will listen. I believe the killer of Trust is not hurt, but the kind of disappointment that turns into cynicism. I’m choosing to trust that, after the things that we can and are doing something about, the rest is exactly as it was always meant to be. I trust my Mother Knows Best for herself and that this path is strewn with petals of lessons up and down, which can be trampled angrily on or admired for their fragrance and color. I trust that (especially in being so alike) she will always be my greatest teacher no matter where either of us is on our journeys.

What’s your trust quotient? Even if it’s high, how do you raise it daily? I trust, if you’re a reader of this blog, you likely do.  — BadWitch

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Trust (GW)

There is much I could write about trust—the importance of it, the way to find it, the way to engender it. But these would all go down different paths that would not say the basic truth—without trust (of self, of others, of the Universe’s support) there is nothing. You will trip and fall because you have not set your mind to believe what you would actually have be the truth.

You can because you are capable. Trust yourself to do what you need to do or find the answers. Do not let disappointment from past betrayals keep you from experiencing the love and support available to you in the present and future. Trust that the Universe has sent you those who you can rely on. Trust that you are smart enough to find them. And trust. It is the most important aspect of love.

Be worthy of trust. Take commitments seriously. Take yourself seriously. Then live like you mean it. And, yes, trust and believe—with those components you are more than half way to success. — GoodWitch

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Squeezed: Ethics in Middle Managementland?

Trippin’ like Lewis Carroll, or could even you see it on this side of the looking glass?  — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — Myth or reality? Conscientious and ethical middle management? Stuck in the Middle

 

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Dear Stuck in the Middle,

I’ve not seen anything contrary in my experience, but top-down thoughts > choices > actions. Ethics are top-down. In a company with questionable (let’s call them) ethics, being a sometimes less-than-powerful middle manager often adds the pressures of ambition to excel on the career track. I tried to, but found I couldn’t answer your question without editorializing — here’s some more: if you find yourself working in a firm whose ethics (often easily spotted identified in its average lowest/smallest client treatment practices) frequently don’t jibe with your own (maybe you dread going to work, or feel sick or unduly tired when you come home. Check in with your own Body Wisdom), I would seriously consider looking for a new place to be a middle manager.

So in a nutshell: “Conscientious and ethical middle management?” not always but absolutely, and if your firm and you are in alignment that possibility is all the clearer.

Middle up,

BadWitch

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Dear Stuck in the Middle,

The real question is whether people at any level of management, especially the higher echelons, can act with respect for fellow man, righteous perspective and yes, conscience. For those in middle management often have little recourse to follow the guidance of their conscience when those above have different priorities.

As a middle manager, I suggest getting very clear with yourself about what you believe. Be clear with yourself about where your moral compass points so that you know what you will and will not do to get ahead. Realize also, that although great, loud moral stands work great in the movies, they are far less effective in real life. If you find yourself asked to do something that dips below the line of your conscience barometer, do not make a scene. Find a way to offer the goal through less nefarious means. Of course, chances are no one will ever point blank ask you to break the law. It will be shrouded in concern for the company or the bottom line.

Conscience comes with every soul. Whether we choose to listen or not is up to each of us. The myth is that business cannot be moral and survive, much less make a profit. The reality is love of capitalism has over shadowed love of fellow worker, fellow man and the environment we need to live and grow. Each of us in these days must find our own way of acting in an upstanding fashion so others can see it modeled.

Good luck,

 

GoodWitch

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