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Surrender: How to Do It (GW)

Surrender is one of the hardest lessons to truly embrace and practice in one’s life. When one truly surrenders, one lets go of the attachment to the outcome in a situation. Remember a time when you struggled to remember some piece of trivia, like the name of a song, actor or movie, and it just eluded you. The harder you tried, the more blank your mind became. Then you let go. You decide it does not matter to remember, so you give up your attachment (and struggling to achieve it). Then a little while later the answer pops into your head like a gift.

That is surrender in process:

1. Set your goal or desire.

2. Work towards attaining your desire to the best of your abilities.

3. Be grateful for the opportunity to move towards your goal.

4. Release your attachment to the outcome. Work for the fun of working. Find the joy and the humor in the struggle and let go, trusting things to work out for the best. They usually will.  — GoodWitch

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Grudges: Do You Hold Them? (inspiration)

“He who angers you conquers you.” ~Elizabeth Kenny

“Anger is one letter short of danger.”~Anon

“To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.”~ William H Walton

“People often grudge others what they cannot enjoy themselves.”~Aesop

“Life is too short to hold a grudge, also too long.”~Robert Brault

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Grudges: Do You Hold Them? (BW)

Of all things not to hold close to one’s heart most especially, a grudge would be in the top two. Sustained anger is the emotion that turns into resentment and bitterness. Negative emotions produce chaotic heart rhythms, which negatively impact the rest of the body’s systems. Studies show that for every five (5) minutes of anger you feel, your body’s immune system drops in effectiveness for 12 hours. Conversely, five minutes of happiness and love you feel does the same in the positive for your body and its systems.

Allowing yourself persistent feelings of resentment and grudges holds you in the past, eats away at you, and lessens your availability to better options and events in the present. Grudges make you less whole, and lesser than. Don’t bring your grudge’s bitterness and anger from the past that’s gone forever, into all your relationships today and tomorrow. Forgiveness is first a choice, and then a process of commitment. You must want to change and grow. When you do, then you can. Next, work on you(r) will.  BadWitch

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Grudges: Do You Hold Them? (GW)

What’s the point! You hold a grudge, reminding yourself over and over again to release cortisol into your system, send acid churning in your stomach and raise your heart rate and blood pressure through the roof because this person hurt you. At what point is this suppose to actually hurt the other person?

Want to know what can really hurt the other person? Obscurity. Loss of Interest. That’s right, just like I’d tell my child on the playground if another child is not playing nice, walk away. Life is too short for grudges. It only leads o stuck energy, acid reflux and migraines. Juust kick em to the curb and move on. You will be all the happier and wiser for it. — GoodWitch

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Pushy Wannabe Grandma, “Pregnancy Now!”

Tick tock!, she don’t stop. If you wait, will it be too late?  When moms pushes you to make her a granny now.  — BadWitch

Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…

Dear GWBW — As a single woman in her mid thirties, my mother keeps warning me that if I wait even a day longer to have children, she will never be a grandmother. To what extent is this true or untrue? What should I do to ensure that I have the option for motherhood in the future?Pregnant Pause

 

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Dear Pregnant Pause,

Firstly, I can’t think of too many choices in this world more important than whether or not to have children…except maybe when to have them. With all due respect to your mother, she’s already had her time as one, it’s now completely up to you as to if and when to you will become one. Own that fact, exemplify that feeling.

As to when, if you’re healthy, fertile and want a family, make Pros and Cons lists if you need help with more clarity. Obvious considerations include your health, wealth, practical and strategic career accounts (day-to-day childcare options versus your availability to remain work-relevant and competitive), and the often under-considered urges/desires and assumptions/notions you may or may not have about your “family.” Siblings to trusted spiritual leaders may help with this last one.

Future options protection? Here’s one idea if you can swing the finances (I’m sorry I didn’t grab the link when I recently heard about a young woman’s brilliant and controversial plan!). She knows she wants kids ultimately, but not while she’s competing and building her equally important career. She had her own eggs harvested and frozen for IVF when she is ready for motherhood. Dissenting religious beliefs completely respected and aside, I have to tell you that I didn’t understand why this was a “news” story in this day and age, except for suggesting that many people in our society still don’t actually “family plan,” or may have some misunderstandings about the challenging but viable IVF process.

Far more important than making your mother vicariously happy, please make sure you are happy about your own parenting status by deeply researching and considering all the options available to you specifically.

Gestate on that,

BadWitch

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Dear Pregnant Pause,

More and more women are waiting to start a family. This is not the 50’s anymore—where  women marry straight out of high school or go to college to find a husband and then hit fast forward on the family planning.

That being said, age can affect fertility. A woman is born with all the eggs she will have in her life. These eggs age as we do, sometimes forming a hard outer shell, which can keep sperm from penetrating the egg. So what does this mean?

It means that you may have issues getting pregnant without assistance as you start to age past late thirties. However, reproductive endocrinology (yes, the science of test tube babies) has come a long way. Single women, same sex couples and fertility challenged heterosexual couples are making their family dreams a reality through IVF (in-vitro fertilization). In other words, though the science is not fail-proof, success rates show it is a viable option.

So, though your mom is ready for grandkids right this moment, do what is right for you. You can start with a conversation with your OB/GYN and perhaps a consultation with a well-respected reproductive endocrinologist to determine if there are any other issues besides age, which may be a fertility challenge for you.

Sadly, in the world of fertility, age does matter. And, yes, being called “older” at 40 may be one of the more annoying side-effects, but know that you may yet have a child in a few years. I had my first child at 33 and my second at 36. So, apparently my mid-thirties were quite fertile. Does that mean I’m done at 44-not necessarily. Egg donation is also an option, as is adoption. In other words, if you want a family, there are ways and means. Don’t step on the gas now to make someone else happy, because it’s you that have the responsibility for growing a responsible member of society for the following 18 years—at least.

Be happy where you are and know your options and opportunities for the future,

GoodWitch

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Importance of Play. The Gravitas of Levity. (GW)

Who can say more about the importance of play! PLAY! It’s vital for children to learn, according to researchers and child psychologists. But what they fail to realize is the importance for adults. Play allows you to refill your energetic tank so you can have the wherewithal to do all the responsibility and care-taking things you do.

Play, laugh, sing: three necessary components for freeing up your spirit and restocking the energetic shelves. Doesn’t matter if you laugh so hard you snort or sing off key. What matters is that you have fun!

Lighten up people! This serious-all-the-time thing is just not good for you. Let your spirit be free. Just for a minute. You’ll feel better. — GoodWitch

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Importance of Play. The Gravitas of Levity. (BW)

I get a lot of grief for seemingly laughing at everything in life. Meanwhile, I view myself as responsible and grounded — so I’m all about this theme! Children’s brains develop and learn via play — and as my studies as a manager and someone who’s had success at long-term relationships of all types show, levity is the highest octane fuel to keep an engine a high-performing one. That good news means we seem to never outgrow the learning blocks of play and levity. Play and levity are the important stuff of living with clearer eyes/vision and sharper listening ability, emotional un-encumbrance (a.k.a. staying present, or say ancient hippy secret: Be Here Now), the spiritual emancipation of ego-slaying. Why take yourself so seriously? Others don’t. Those who don’t value the gravitas of play and levity in life tend to fall into this trap. If you drop your own self-importance: Who’s left to hear the engrossing whining? Take the blame? Point more accusatory fingers at?

Quoting my Brit comic twin (life view, that is) Ricky Gervais: “Whot? Are you havin’ a laugh?” Yes, more please! — BadWitch

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